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Have you ever truly seen your man, I mean naked, emotionally naked? 

Have you ever seen beyond his physical being and looked into his soul? 

Has he given you the opportunity to see his fears, insecurities, pain, or the self behind the ego?

Have you ever seen the depths of your man as he reaches the depths of your body?

His pain, fears, anger, jealousy, and insecurities are really the beauty beneath his physical body. 

The beauty that calls for him to trust you and share his deepest secrets.

As he cries and lays his head upon your breast and wishes for you to nurture him as he longed for it for many years from his mother.

The security that was stolen from him as a little boy and now he’s a man with the same fears and insecurities.

His strong arms hold you gently and tightly as he just wants to feel your warmth and security.

You rub his head and assure his safety, the safety of his heart that was once discarded.

He is beautiful and strong as he cries and reconnects with his little boy’s pain.

He is beautiful as he withdraws and emotionally clams out of fear you might not understand. 

He is a man.

A man in touch with his feminine energy and not afraid to be judged or accused of being a bitch. 

He is a man.

A wounded man, who never healed from the wounded boy. 

He is a man.

A man who trusts you, his woman, to understand, have compassion and love him for who he is. 

He is a man.

A man who once lived in fear and until he felt your love, he can now live.

He wants to heal, but he needs to know he can count on you to support him and not judge him.

He opens up and shows you the beauty of a wounded man.

The pain deep down in his soul that has prevented him from loving and trusting you the way you deserve.

He’s a wounded man, but he’s a loving man. 

He loves you, but his pain is deeper than you can imagine.

Hold him, love him, empower him, cry with him, and never degrade him. 

He is a man, OUR man, the man who will protect and die for you.

Cherish him, encourage him and, let him be.

He’s wounded, but he’s beautiful as he allows you to see the true depths of his soul.

He removes his Ego and allows you to see his true self.

The pain he suffers, the fears he faces, the insecurities he lives with and the jealousy that scares you. 

Have patience with him as he is a man, a wounded man, in need of real love and compassion.

The Wounded Beautiful Man

Thank you for reading, please comment below and share with your network. 

Authored by:

CoachKelley

Healing Enthusiast

Holistic Healer

Life & Wellness Coach

Professional Speaker

International, Award Winning Author

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EMPOWERMENT. AUTHENTICITY. TRANSPARENCY.

Acknowledge the thought:
It is impossible to release a negative thought if you refuse to acknowledge that it exists. The purpose of recognizing the idea is to become aware of what you think. More importantly, there are no negative behavior w/o first negative thoughts. Acknowledge your thinking by merely saying “I hear you” and then replace it with a positive impression.

Replace the negative thought with a positive one:
When you have an idea that states you are “fat” or “you will never be happy,” counteract that thought by saying “I am thin and healthy” and I am always happy. Do not entertain the thought by creating an emotion as it will become your belief or life. Thoughts become things, as they always follow a feeling that produces more energy surrounding the idea and brings it into fruition or a thoughtform.

Ask yourself:
What am I thinking and what am I feeling:
The goal behind this is to bring your mind back to the present moment. Generally, when we are in deep thought, it is because we are focused on the past or future and neither one of them are more important than the present moment. So ask yourself, “What am I thinking?” Asking yourself the question above, empowers you to become conscious and redirect your thoughts on something more positive. Then ask yourself, “What am I feeling?” Again, empowering you to become conscious of any unhealthy emotions you may have created from the negative thought.

Don’t internalize other people’s thoughts:
The last thing you should do is internalize what someone else thinks of you and make it yours. In the past, there were probably people who spoke negative of you, and you believed them. Well, that is internalizing their thought or opinion of you. What others think of you is their business, not yours. Don’t attach to what other’s say about you as it belongs to them, not you.

Speak affirmations into your life:
If you want to release negative thoughts, speak positive affirmations in your life. Use the two most powerful words; I AM.

I am beautiful
I am wealth
I am health
I am supported by the Universe
I love and approve of myself
I believe in myself and my abilities
I always make the right choices
I learn from my mistakes and trust myself

Try those daily and add some others that represent your feelings. What follows “I am” will follow you.

Don’t take the thought seriously:
Too many of us allow our minds to wander off and w/o any facts to support our ideas, we take them seriously. Have you ever witnessed someone go from smiling to frowning? Imagine what he or she is thinking about and how that person’s thoughts have changed their entire mood. Thoughts are just that, and you can analyze yours and decide if you want to take it seriously or counteract with positive energy.

Don’t blame others for your negative thinking:
Placing blame denies you the opportunity to learn from pain and experiences. When you have negative thoughts, it is because you choose to think negative or was conditioned to it as a child. More than half of our daily views are negative, and you can consciously choose to think positive. But, please do not blame others for your negative thought process. Maybe you were raised in a negative environment and just carried that energy to your adult life, but no-one is responsible for you creating negative thoughts. Be accountable for your negative mindset and that way you have the power to change it.

Smile:
Smiling is contagious, and when you smile more, it’s evident that smiles are accompanied with positive mindsets unless you’re sarcastic. When you smile it sends a signal to the brain supports our feeling of joy. Smiling is like eating chocolate, or having sex as they induce pleasure or “feel good.” Smile more as it stimulates positive thoughts and excitement.

Surround yourself with positive people:
We’ve heard this time and time again, and most people do not follow this simple rule. Negative minded people rub off on you. Transfer of energy is real, and when people are filled with negative thoughts, they speak contrary and eventually you will begin to think and converse just like them. The first law of thermodynamics states that energy can neither be destroyed, nor created, but it can be transferred. Surround yourself with positive thinking people as they transfer positive energy.

List 10 things you are grateful for right now:
I’m alive
I have good health
I have wealth
I help others heal
I understand forgiveness
I have compassion for others
I have access to an abundance
I have a beautiful son
I have a wonderful husband
I have food, clothes, and shelter

Make it a great day…

Thank you for reading. I hope this blog has empowered you to create a positive mindset. If you have enjoyed reading my blog, please share with your friends. 

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CoachKelley:

Six-time Author,

International Life, Health & Wellness Coach.

Professional Speaker

Your vision is my vision

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Thank you for stopping by as always, my goal is to empower and transform your life. April is Sexual Abuse Awareness Month as my goal is to raise awareness and help you heal. After experiencing sexual abuse, incest, being betrayed and deceived; trusting someone, primarily a male was tough for me. For many years, I kept a shield around me to protect myself. I was so afraid of being hurt that I never allowed anyone to get close. Sometimes, I subconsciously pushed people away because in my mind they were going to hurt or leave me. I was my own worst nightmare and definitely in my way. Today, I no longer have a problem trusting or opening my heart. In life, someone will always hurt us, however, that pain isn’t meant to be our demise, it is to strengthen and teach us. The ultimate goal is to forgive those who caused you pain and following, trusting is easy.

Sexual abuse is such a horrible act as a child your innocence is stolen. The world is no longer perceived as one would see it without the experience of sexual abuse. It can take years to define yourself as well as trust yourself. Trusting others is not the only mission to be accomplished after abuse, trusting self also needs to be achieved. As a victim of sexual abuse, you were either blamed, shamed and made to believe it’s your fault. Or you never told anyone, as you had no idea you experienced abuse. When this happens, your confidence is stolen and developing your identity is interrupted. That leads to low self-esteem, indecisiveness, lack of self-trust and trust for others. You may ask yourself how?

How can you begin to trust yourself if your first encounter with another person was a betrayal? Being blamed, makes you doubt yourself. What’s more, child abuse doesn’t last forever, and with that said, it ends. After the abuse stops, children feel like they did something wrong. That feeling of “doing something wrong” made you believe you made the wrong decision. But, in reality, children cannot and are not capable of making a sound decision to have sex. However, your abuser programmed you to believe it was your fault and since you were a child, manipulation and brainwashing were easy. The most important factor leading to trust others is to forgive. Forgiveness releases the pain, anger, and shame and with that, you regain your power. Once you regain your strength, the world no longer seems unsafe. It appears to be precisely what it is, a place where everyone makes mistakes whether by intent or not. Now you can open yourself up and not worry about being hurt because you are equipped with the power to move forward.

Trust is a very significant factor in a relationship, and I refuse to allow my past deceptions and abuse placed upon me to be the reason I can’t have a successful relationship. You should not either. Besides having a successful relationship, when we don’t trust we block blessings. Being afraid to let others in is a definite way to isolate yourself and that only leads to more misery. I encourage you to pray and or meditate and ask God to give you faith, trust, and understanding of what love is. As long as we live, someone will hurt us again, however, don’t be afraid of pain; embrace it as your key to the next level of strength. In essence, if you have been betrayed and have trust issues, I ask you to walk and live by faith. We cannot concern ourselves with the motives of others, nor can we live in fear. The only actions you can control are yours. So start trusting, have faith and spare yourself some unnecessary mental anguish.

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Thank you for stopping by as always my goal is to inspire and transform your life. When you think of a chameleon, you think of something that blends in or changes its color to protect itself, to hide or be invisible. Right? Okay. Well, most of us behave as chameleons today and especially as it relates to our emotions. The letter below is from my heart to yours. 

I am writing this letter to express my most profound admiration, gratitude, and respect for you. You are the most courageous group of people I have ever met, and I am so lucky to have the opportunity to get to know you, sit with you and experience your journeys.  I think a lot of the work we do together, and I keep coming back to a word called “resistance” or “avoidance.” I know, you are probably wondering what exactly do I mean, well, what I mean is, when most people tell their stories in everyday dialogue, we frequently put glitter on them. We say, “I had an ectopic pregnancy, and it was awful, but now I have two wonderful daughters.” We say, “I lost my apartment, and it was devastating, but my apartment today is so much bigger and better.” We say, “I was in an abusive relationship, but it’s over, and I learned so much from it.”

We usually don’t talk about the raw stuff in the middle. We don’t say, “After my ectopic pregnancy, I spent hours crying and blaming myself.” And wondering what I could have done differently. In fact, that is what I did after my ectopic pregnancy, I wanted my child, and that experience hurt me for years as directly after it, I could no longer bear children the natural way. We don’t say, “When I lost my apartment, I felt worthless, embarrassed, was depressed and didn’t want anyone to know.” We don’t say, “I didn’t leave him because I was scared to be alone, felt like I would never have anyone else, so instead I ignored all the abuse and pretended as if it wasn’t that bad.”

Why don’t we tell these stories?

Well, for one, we’re worried about what others might think of us. In my books, Perfectly Planned and Overcoming Toxic Relationships, I was very transparent and vulnerable as I wanted to inspire others to remove the shame and embarrassment of experiencing pain. Pain is life. I shared my depression, my low self-worth and didn’t care about what people thought. I know sometimes people become uncomfortable when hearing of others suffering, but, mainly because it shifts them to their painful experience that they would instead leave buried.

We also think these versions of our stories make us sound weak. We believe that if we admit our tough emotional times, others will not see us as the beautiful beings we are. We fear being perceived as weak, dramatic and “in our feelings,” instead of being active and capable of conquering and releasing those things that no longer serve us a purpose. In reality, everybody goes through rough times and everyone deals with them differently. It is okay to share the middle of your story where you felt your lowest. It is those moments that people can relate to and inspires others to know that they can move through. You don’t have to pretend your life is perfect. No one has a perfect life.

So, to you my clients, when I meet you, or you show up in my email, inbox, or voicemail, you are welcome to give me your truth. You do not have to wear a mask with me. In fact, I expect you to come unmasked and ready to release. I understand it’s hard and some days you want just to cry your eyeballs out, I know. I have done exactly that before. Some days you come in, and you look like you want to lie down flat on the floor, and sometimes you hold your tears in and pretend to have it together. You don’t have to with me. All I want you to do is explore all of your emotions, release those that no longer serve you a purpose and grow from the experience. Help me help you find your true self. 

If you need personal development coaching, please feel free to reach out to me and let’s discover your authentic self.

Thank you for reading as I look forward to reading your comments below. Please share with your friends. 

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Thank you for stopping by as always my goal is to empower and transform your life. So many people see the glory, but the story of healing was an excruciating and depressing one. From September 2016 and until August 2017, I cried a lot, was angry, suicidal, and felt hopeless. My healing crisis disrupted my marriage as I blamed, was in denial, restless and filled with shame and embarrassment. Almost a year, I smiled as I felt like I died on the inside. Thinking about this past year makes me cry. No sympathy needed, but the pain and sadness were real. So many days, I leaned on my husband and son for their courage just to put on clothes and go outside. I was afraid to be seen, as I feared judgment, people criticizing and frowning at me. I wanted to hide from the world. I felt ugly and disgusting. The two men in my house loved and kept me. It was their love for me that kept me going as I couldn’t see beyond my disgusting skin or bald, inflamed head. Their hugs, kisses, talks, encouraging words and overall love saved me. Many days I wanted to die, but I survived.  

I looked in the mirror at my skin and my head and felt utter disgust and wondered how Patrick still loved me. I was disgusting to me. My skin was severely damaged by the toxins released by intestinal worms and candida yeast.  It was gray, dark black, red and purple with raised rashes. I practiced daily telling myself I was beautiful in the mirror until I believed it. Day in and day out, I said something positive to me. I needed to convince me that I was not my skin. I needed to feel beautiful in the midst of feeling ugly. I needed to love myself in the middle of not accepting me and my experience. Every day was hard for me. Every day was a task to get out of bed and not only because of the pain, but because of the sadness, I felt. I wanted to give up. I needed to love and accept myself and find gratitude in the midst of burning from the inside and feeling disgusting.  If was wasn’t able to embrace the skin I’m in now, I never would. The pain and misery of the overall experience were the most challenging in my life thus far. 
 
How could I be a Life Coach? How would people perceive me? What would my followers think of me? Here I am a Life Coach and suffering from intestinal worms and an overgrowth of yeast. But, the truth of the matter is, intestinal worms and candida yeast hijacked my body when I was eight years old. So it didn’t matter that I was a coach, what mattered was, how was I going to heal and how would my experience impact the world. How could I take this experience and turn it into something positive and beautiful? Did I have the courage to share my skin with everyone to help me and others? I did. In April 2017, I shared a video of my body, and the responses were loving, hopeful, thankful, and everything unexpected. I needed all that love from around the world. The support was fantastic and most people didn’t know that I suffered and it was the kind words from all around the world, that helped me to heal emotionally. I needed all the encouraging words I could get at that time. You all came through for me. Yes, my husband and son supported and loved me, but the love and support I received from all around the world amazed me. Many days I wanted to die, but you all saved me. Many days, I wanted to give up, but every day I read FB messages that encouraged me to keep going. Many days I wanted to stay in bed, but the post on my FB page made me smile. You all saved me, and I thank you for supporting and loving a complete stranger when I so desperately needed encouragement and love. 

I learned to see beauty as something more than my hair, skin, full lips or thick hips; I learned to see beauty in pure ugliness. You all have given me something I never thought I would find during my experience. The experience of my peeling and burning skin while my hair fell out and as I wore wigs to hide the scars in my head. You all gave me a sense of peace in the midst of my storm. You didn’t even know me, but you shared your love and encouraging words with me. I am so grateful for you all. From Africa to Australia, to North and South America, as well as Asia and Europe; your kind words kept me going every day. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. 

The Universe created some divine and beautiful people across the globe, and I had the pleasure of experiencing Global Love. In my experience, I learned to profoundly love and accept myself and not care about what people think or expect from me. I crawled and had to drag myself from emptiness and find the beauty beneath my skin. I did that.  I am NOT my skin, nor am I my hair. My beauty runs more profound than you, and I can see. We are not our skin or our hair as we are spirits experiencing the human experience.  I pray my story brings healing, love & light to you.

Thank you for reading as I look forward to reading your comments For the full story, please purchase Detox or DIEt. It’s available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble and here

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