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If you are wondering what the photo to the left symbolizes, take a guess. The gentleman in the picture is telling you to keep quiet and not inform his woman/wife that you are the "other woman." Sound familiar? For many of us, yes it does, and if not, keep on living. I've played this role twice and willingly. But not all of us women are mentally stable or sound when we make decisions as such. I know for myself, I was used to secrecy after experiencing child abuse so to keep quiet was easy for me. Also not being taught to respect the sacred foundation of marriage and recognizing relationships played a huge part in me being the "Other Woman."

I will be the first to tell you, it's not a good feeling at all and if any woman out here says she doesn't have a problem being the "Other Woman," I would question her self-love. Imagine falling for a man who's already attached. Not a good imagination. All the empty promises, waiting for calls that never occur, all the holidays that pass, and the ultimate, he answers her call in front of you but ignores your call when he's with her. How can you expect anything more? He's attached. You are simply some sex, oral and no obligation. He might even grow to care for you, but really, would you want someone who cheats on his woman. He's going to cheat on you as well. You are not special. 

There's a certain type of woman who gets involved with a married or attached man. 
One who is selfish 
One who is desperate 
One who lacks self-love
One who lacks self-respect 
One who doesn't know her worth 
One who devalues marriage and the relationship as a whole 

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betrayal, and deceit. The lesson for me was to remove those behaviors from my life, and I did. Can you see how cheating and being cheated on made me better? Karma is good for the soul; it is just a matter of how the PERSON decides to view it or connect to it. Allow your heart to connect, not your person. 
We come to learn what is and is not like love. In the worlds of duality, (good & evil) we learn from “good-bad,” “problem-solution,” fear and doubts, etc. until we evolve into divine love, joy, and awareness. (ONLY ONE SOURCE). 

Karmic Debt is here to serve us a purpose as we signed up and agreed to what we have, are, and will experience. It is critical NOT to react; as with everything we feel, say, or do, we make choices. Whatever you choose to do; produce a wave that travels through time; those choices are our Karma, good or bad. Let's go a little deeper. 
Imagine the murder of a child. All those attached to that child will react in pain, anger, discord, guilt, and might even commit unhealthy acts. Let us pose this question. What if the "person" who carried the child's soul before the child "person" was born, committed murder? What if? What if the balancing the Universe's energy required the same act committed in the previous lifetime? How would you view this experience then? 

What if the "person" I was before today had sex with children and wreaked havoc on them? What if? What would that person's Karma be if they lived to feel it? What if that person died before Karma balanced their soul's energy? Who would then receive that Karma? Me. 

As a child, I was sexually molested. The Universal Law of Karma states that the same way the energy is put out into the world is the exact way it is returned. What you do to others will come back and be done to you. Karma is not just in your present life as it also applies to the lives you lived before the present one. One might find this hard to digest as we believe we are only five senses and that once we physically die, that is it. Energy is nor destroyed or created as it is only transferred. We are energy. If you understood that we are multi-sensory spirits, you would see that Karma never ends unless we accept responsibility for our thoughts, emotions, and actions and "allow it to be okay." 
LAW OF EMPOWERMENT states that if you “let whatever happens to be ok,” you are accepting the “default” pattern of karma. Empowerment comes from a conscious decision to take control of karma by taking absolute and total responsibility for your life ...
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Karmic Debt is at the soul level, meaning you are born with a certain amount of Karma that your previous person did not receive as he or she died before receiving it.  

What does that mean? We are NOT just five sense people (sight, taste, touch, feel, hear) NOPE, we are beyond that. We are multisensory spirits covered in skin, or in the physical realm. Before this life, you're living; your spirit was carried by someone else. (Reincarnation) This PERSONality created Karmic Debt as you had today and died before the Universe balanced the soul's energy (Meaning, passed away before Karma came back to him/her) So, now your PERSONality is born with that soul (spirit) and guess what, that is your birth Karmic Debt. Universal energy needs balancing for the purpose of healing and evolution. We are Spirits. 

LAW OF CAUSE & EFFECT: What you have done unto others in past lives or this one (cause), weaves the karmic agreement of your present and future (effect). Consciously acting from love and kindness to yourself and others instantly bring the present and future karmic contracts into greater pathways of empowerment and unfoldment. How do we create Karmic Debt and why is it important to not become upset when we experience it?

Karmic Debt comes from the Universe, and everything from the Universe is all in love. Example, I can recall cheating on my ex-boyfriend years ago. Fast forward, when I dated my son's father, he cheated on me. Was I to be upset when I committed the same act years before? No, but I was as I didn't realize I created that debt. What's more, this was a man who slept with many women so what was I to expect. I got just what I deserved, but all in love. That particular part of my person was broken and filled with lies,

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The list goes on. Sure, he may invite you to nice places and purchase you beautiful gifts but is stepping on and in another relationship worth dinner and a gift. This man has no respect for you or his woman. The fact that you would involve yourself sexually or emotionally with a man as such doesn't say much about what you think of self. Every night he's going home to his woman and where does that leave you? Alone. I am not trying to be harsh, but this is the cold truth. Understand that you are worth waiting for or meeting that someone for you. Even if he decides to leave his woman for you, he will leave you for the next. There is no way you can start a relationship built on lies and deceit and think for one second it will be successful.

Dating an attached man is like running on a treadmill, going nowhere and getting off wet. I can tell you from experience you will get hurt numerous times and if you refuse to be authentic with yourself, the pain will continue. Looking back, when I dated the attached man, I can only conclude that my mind was as cloudy as day in the Fall. If I had to label myself, the list would've included:

Lack of Self-Respect 
Low Self-Esteem 

I know there are a lot of women that claim they prefer to date an attached or married man because they are not looking for commitment. Well, with all the men out here, why choose someone who is attached, because eventually you will become attached to an unavailable man.  Love triangles always end in disaster. No one wins. No happiness evolves from being emotionally or sexually attached to an unavailable man. The one thing I know for sure is that everybody wants someone for themselves.  Start with some soul searching and find out why you feel so unworthy that you have to impose on someone else’s relationship or marriage. Dig deep and uncover the open wounds that you have not forgiven. Dig deeper ...
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Confessions From the Other Woman